God doesn’t control my life. Friends don’t control friends and God is much better than a friend. Why do we feel the need to control our friends? We try to control their enemies, we try to control our distant friends, we like to control God, we to control our close friends. Folks like to control their kids and they like to control their spouses most of all. The closer the relationship, the more legitimate the control. We probably feel that way because when we invite a person into our life we become vulnerable to them and so we keep them in line in order to protect ourselves. It’s only ironic because control runs contrary to love and it reduces relationship to possession. Love is to try to be perfect for the sake of others. That would be the opposite of control. If people love each other like that, the relationships can grow forever.
peace
